18 years ago, your MOM held your body in her arms, looked lovingly into your eyes and promised that she would love and protect you forever. During the past 18 + years, she rocked you to sleep, kissed your boo boos drove you to practices, church, birthday parties, and wherever else you needed to go. She made you eat vegetables, helped you with homework, and protected you from monsters, spiders, and bullies. She prayed you would be kind, honest, and make good choices. She still loved you when you were unkind, untruthful, and made poor choices. She held you when you cried over disappointments, lost friendships, and lost loves. And, after she held you during those times, she cried herself to sleep feeling the depth of your hurts.
In your excitement for things to come, be patient with her. Let her be emotional. Let her take pictures and give extra long hugs. Take a little extra time just to "be" with her. Although her mind knows you are grown, her heart still sees you as that infant she once looked at so lovingly. Letting you go to pursue your future is letting go of a piece of her heart. She is beginning to realize that she will not always be able to be there to protect you. While your life is changing, so is hers. For the past 18 years, her life revolved around taking care of you. She will be lost for a little while trying to figure out a new "normal".
So, while we celebrate you and your graduation, take a moment to acknowledge your mom. Let her know that she is important and that you will always be a part of her life. Go out into the world and do great things, but give her a call once in a while. Take her to lunch for no reason. Remember that your accomplishments are hers too. Even though she didn't do the homework or go to the classes, she was your biggest cheerleader. She worried, hoped, and prayed more than you will ever know.
Love,
Mom of a Graduate